Dating

I’m tired of being single, but I don’t know what to do about it. I’m painfully shy, unattractive, and not interesting enough. Men don’t ever approach me at bars or anywhere else. What do I have to do to get noticed?

Jenn

Oh, Jenn.

You sound a hell of a lot like I used to. The old “I’m not pretty enough or interesting enough” syndrome. I know it’s not fun, but it’s also a bit of a cop-out.

It’s really easy to sit in a corner and sigh about how you’re alone, when every other woman can find someone. But maybe instead you should observe these ladies. Take note.

Chances are, they’re putting themselves out there. Who says the guy has to be the one to make the first move? If a man catches your eye, let him know. Make eye contact, buy him a drink, say hello - do anything. That way you aren’t in the background, blending in with the wallpaper. You’re taking a chance.

If he doesn’t reciprocate and isn’t interested, that’s ok. Trying is the important part, and eventually you won’t feel so shy and uncomfortable with it. The more comfortable you are with yourself and how you act, the more men will take notice.

Sounds like an after-school special, but it’s true.

Don’t forget - there are other places to meet people in, aside from bars. Get a hobby, take a class. That way you’ll meet like-minded individuals and you’ll have more in common than a shared love of Stoli and diet.

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